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I was waiting for my cab. I was standing under a tree shade next to a small shop which was at the entry of a lane that led to my residential complex. It was a scorching afternoon with passing by vehicles puffing out black smoke. I dwell in a area that still has a tinge of rural setting. Old men manoeuvring their cattle across the road is a usual sight. Schools children were flocking across the roads, some with their mothers, some with their maids, and few with their school gangs. I was rejoicing this landscape.

A collision between a truck and a four wheeler interrupted my wallow. The drivers got into a brawl. Soon, people from neighbourhood joined the chaos. Later the truck driver fled and things were coming to a stand still when a gang of school children surrounded the truck, started the typical “maa-bhen” abuse and pelted stones at the truck, few of them even tried to run in search of the truck driver with stones in their hand. I was left awestruck.

Moments later my cab arrived and I was on my way to a venue where I had to deliver a speech on “Stress Management & Relaxation Techniques”.

All through the way, the act of those school children reflected upon me, the collision episode was slowly diminishing from my memory. I was still surprised at the way those children, still in their nascent age, reacted to the incident. They probably had no clue about what went wrong, whose mistake it was, or what the entire situation was about.

From where did this temperament of violence and abuse creep in? Weren’t they at an age to run bare feet into the sprawling fields or play cricket or do things that children of that age did?

My further pondering made a swarm of thoughts swirl in my mind. Foremost, the patience level has gone down generically across the entire generation, including the parents. With the kind of separations taking place increasingly it is inevitable that tolerance level of young couples has gone down. With the parents not able to manage their time and stress effectively, the frustration is passed on to the children. And in few cases children witness their parent’s agitation which gets engraved on their innocent minds, which is later practiced in the world outside, seldom noticed by their parents.

Other factor could possibly be technology; with arcade games gaining so much popularity, children today have forgotten playing strategy board games or outdoor games. These games actually help in channelizing mental thoughts and building up endurance which effectively aid individual’s physiological, physical, and psychological well-being/development. The computer games nowadays where killings, robberies, bomb blasts are primary themes teach children similar motives and have an adverse effect on children’s minds, and this is practised in the outer world again. Their minds become to prone to violent behaviour and their mindset takes a shape of thought – “eradication is the only solution”. In some parts of the country, access to weapons is easy, thus facilitating irrational killings or bloodshed where satisfaction of the ego is the only objective and impatience (inability to rationalise) the root cause.
Children are so much soaked in violence that it won’t be surprising to hear them talk about it or go ahead and do it.

It is the time to ask “WHY” such kind of behaviour has become so ubiquitous in our society and there is a strong need to devise techniques to alienate violence among children. While stringent rules and law regulations will not be the only solution to this problem, I am sure you will second me about the requisite veracity that mental well-being is a crucial facet of children’s young years.

   
Psychologists all over who have been practicing in schools and counselling about children’s mental health have stressed that it is just not necessary to impart academic and learning skills but it is also important to teach them thinking ability, coping up and communicating skills, and also few methods on behavioural aspects.

Every school, ideally, should have psychologists or behavioural therapists on their panels so counsel the children on timely basis and interface with the parents regularly to teach and seek feedback about mental wellness techniques.

Mental health services and counselling practices must be implemented in schools and our children rightly deserve it. Resources are available in plenty, they need to be tapped and there needs to be a change in our mentality too – “every individual referred to a psychologist does not necessarily equate to one being mad”. There needs to be strong measures for involvement and prevention at the earliest.

P.S. - Unfortunately, psychologists are projected as helpers, who are brought in only after the crisis has taken place, which regrettably is demeaning and certainly fruitless.

- Pragyan Jha
(Pragyan Jha is a qualified psychologist & practicing counsellor in Pune)

Pundi was a happy small fish in the little pond surrounded by green slippery banks. The lush bustling trees around, often offered shade to the pond, thus providing a cool cosy environment to Pundi and his friends. Pundi played around merrily with his friends in the pond and at times took to some serious swimming lessons on his own and then teaching his friends. He could never master any though, yet he knew how a fish was supposed to know about swimming. His thirst to innovate and experiment always kept him restless. Even with his eyes closed, something went on his mind continuously. He dreamt of swimming the big seas, large oceans, and at times even flying; his friends laughed at this. You could drop Pundi anywhere in the pond and he would skilfully swim his way out, so adapted he was to his pond. He was happy about his skills in that little world, but at times the thoughts of learning new swimming styles and facing the tides disheartened him. Poor me! He thought. He often had roller coaster rides between his deliberations of spinning into the oceans and bequeathing the pond, where he was known – a face that everyone recognised, presence that everyone loved.

Sadly, one day came a news that pond will be filled with large chunks of rocks, soil, mud, concrete, and clay, and what not; a huge township project was being planned there. Pundi and his friends were terribly worried. While some stayed back and chose to dump their remains under the burdens of concrete, Pundi convinced a few to set out and try new avenues. Yes, it was a tough decision to leave the place where they all had nurtured the wonderful moments of their lives, but Pundi believed in marching ahead. He looked at this as an opportunity to accomplish his flight of fancy of swimming the oceans and learning those advanced swimming techniques. With even a stronger conviction now, Pundi left for the rivers and then to the seas, each time getting happier than what he was yesterday. His friends got exhausted with the ecstasy and restricted their excursion to rivers and seas. Pundi had learnt to take the sea waves, dive in deep, and rise to top with the waves. His next destination was an ocean.

As though he had enslaved the lady luck, Pundi made his way to the ocean. Cheered with his latest achievement, he swam along the shores of the ocean. He was nervous initially but soon had himself moulded to what was required. He thought of a step forward now. He progressed towards the deeper waters. He met senior and experienced, some aged fishes all through his stride. He loved to see their swimming skills and how they twisted in that cold ocean water. He listened to their discussions from a distance, and felt excited about their triumphs of how they swam around when attacked by a shark or enticed by some bait or chased by some divers. Pundi thought he had been missing so much in life; he was nothing when compared to the real lives of the real waters. Soon he was a part of their group and attentively learnt what the seniors conversed. He was enjoying all this, but he missed his swimming, too much of lectures and mentoring made him irritated at times. Although a part of the huge group, Pundi was still no one, he yearned for what he was when in the pond. Pundi started staying aloof and did what he enjoyed the most – swimming. The big fishes, not necessarily in terms of age and size, but also by their talks, used to be engaged in boasting their skills, and thinking about what-to-do when something happened or when nothing happened, they were busy charting out what should be the goals and objectives of all the fishes. Pundi was starting to get bored.

Over few days, when Pundi was relentless swimming, remembering his old friends and days in the pond, a middle level fish approached Pundi and asked him to join a meeting. There was some news that a hazardous emission of chemicals was being done into the ocean. The meeting was to discuss a strategy on how to save the fish-world from this. Pundi occupied the last seat, as far as he could from the seniors, and yawned merrily, while still trying to keep his stare at the stern and grave faces of the gathered fishes. The only solution, Pundi thought at that point was to swim to some other place that was safe, as there was little that could be done in this case. Pundi had no talent to the likes of his seniors but was probably just using his common sense. The discussion went on with some heavy calculations and presentations that few members presented. There was a deep debate and feasibility test on the SWOT analysis (Swim-Wriggle-Occur-Topple), and then some Root-Cause-Analysis, two fish found some bones from the near-by burials and then they started some Fish Bone techniques to select the most appropriate form and stroke to swim across. Pundi was getting terribly confused with what all was happening, he couldn’t make sense out of anything, is all this going to really help, he thought. Swimming away was the best thing to do he was thinking at that time. Anyways, the seniors too were discussing the same to swim away, then why do strategy analysis and waste time. “Half knowledge is dangerous, but too much knowledge can be fatal,” Pundi said to himself, “sometimes it stops you from doing what is obvious”. Pundi jumped from the seat and started swimming the way he used to during his days in the pond. “Where are you going? You are being arrogant and disrespectful,” said the senior voices behind Pundi, but soon those voices had faded away. Pundi happily swam away remembering his old friends and his world in that small pond. Later, the senior fishes too adopted Pundi’s style and swam away the best they could. One from the group had soon joined Pundi on the voyage, both whirled away finding their way to a river. “It is sometimes better to use common sense and act than to sit in closed rooms and discuss things,” said the fellow fish patting Pundi’s shoulder with his left fin. And they happily swam ever after.

- P. K. Dastoor

This Dramatic Monologue is based on Robert Brownings Love among the Ruins first appeared on 10th Nov, 1855 before 155 years. The original poem depicts the ultimate object of male desire to collect material wealth in a misdirected way and hence the fall of the city.
The situation is exactly the same today. In fact, in multiplied proportion.
31st in the title is just because of the number of floors of the building in scam.

 
(Based on "Love Among The Ruins" by Robert Browning)
Now, Mumbai tipsters of towers
Not flowers
On the tranquil seashore plot of Nariman Point
Spaces they joint
Making a paper file of the land, ministers and bureaucrats remark
To embark
In the names of widows of war-soldiers dead
The rulers tread
Our country's financial capital's chief minister
Playing sinister
Kith and kin feel entering their hypothesized heaven
Surrounded by stain
Car wheels crushing excreta carrying to podium
Enjoying odium
Uniformed watchdogs protecting city and national gates
Sharing secrets
In the heart of marshland and slum
Enter political plum
The lust of money and land grab doesn't stop
Though crests drop
A billion dwellers never inhaled pure weather
They capped feather
Concentration camps moving on rails make them no difference
Signing file clearance
Prince and the queen ‘ever beating poverty drum
Mysteriously mum
The chief ministers and confreres under oath
Naked over cloth
The entire world looked with awe at new Mumbai-south
With open mouth
Where are five year national plans?
Consistency sans
Entire political career of continued corruption
Where’s interruption!
With their Bakasuri hunger of grabbing wealth
Where's the oath?
Their shenanigans and their rogueries and their guiles
Killing smiles

(Apologising Robert Browning)

- Divakar Kambli

An individual’s stress is a response to a threatening or challenging environmental condition. To understand and explore more about the stress, it is important to know about the association of stress and fear. Both are correlated to each other. But in many cases we are responsible for our stress. We encounter both positive and negative stressors; circumstances from where the stress is originated.

Stress though largely associated with psychological patterns, impacts one’s well being physically and affects the physiological system. In long run it dampens physical alertness and makes our body a hatchery for various physical ailments such as high blood pressure, metabolic disorders (like diabetes, indigestion & impotency) and increased incidences of cold and flu. Prolonged stress can be observed in post traumatic stress disorders, major depression and in some cases aging, lack of appetite, severe hair loss etc. However, the significant brunt is on the mental health. It kills your zeal, the ability to do things you enjoy, and it creates a deep fissure in your positive thinking pattern which can really be hazardous, eventually leading to state of loneliness, addiction, violent behaviour etc seeping inside you like a slow poison.

   
There is good news though. There are ways to tackle stress. As is rightly said, “a stitch in time saves nine”, stress too can be handled effectively when curative actions are taken adequately and appropriately.

Our response to stress depends on many factors like genetic inheritance, family & childhood experiences, overall physical & mental health and our perception of stress. It has been medically proved that our thoughts and emotions influence our health – body is the state of mind. This is so because there is a strong physical link between brain and the immune system.

I wish to emphasize again that stress does not originate from air or water or plants or anything around us. Stress is seated within us and it entirely depends on us when and how much of it to liberate. So as stress originates from within us, we should make an attempt from within to eliminate it. And this is simple. Controlled behaviour and attitude can do the miracle. Our mind is the mirror of the self, and responds in the manner we think. An individual’s well being plays a crucial role in successful adjustment. Positive attitude and behavior are vital for mind and body. So it’s well said, heaven and hell reside in the person’s mind; it depends entirely on that person which side he/she wants to fall and lead a life.

However, let me also leave you with a perspective that stress is always not harmful. Anything in controlled manner and moderation is good, we all have been taught of this since our childhood and possibly many of us have practiced and experienced it too. Short term stress has its benefits. Little anxiety and work pressure enhances the performance of an individual. It has a positive impact as it leads to more dedicated effort from an individual who strives for higher achievement levels. Also, sometimes acute stress is good for gearing up body’s immune system.

Use “Stress” in another standpoint. Change the meaning of “stress” in your life to “being assertive”. Stress on the importance of living not just existing, stress on achieving success & excellence, stress on leading a life full of happiness & contentment.
Have a good life! It’s fun!

- Pragyan Jha
(Pragyan Jha is a qualified psychologist & practicing counsellor in Pune)

Today, hi-tech innovations and scientific revolution have gripped all around us. It has become nearly impossible to imagine a thing without them. Though these innovations have made life simpler mechanically, it has deeply hampered human’s natural behaviour. The psyche to get things (results) immediately has reduced the patience levels of an individual thereby distorting the entire pattern of our society. The structure of our thinking and the building blocks of our society are changing rapidly thus creating a social and mental imbalance. Day to day examples of these can be observed in increased stress levels of employed individuals, rising amounts of divorces, adjusting with the family, fights on petty issues, unnecessary violent reactions, and so on.

Before the picture gets more worrisome, it is the time to heal the society and its habitants. Counselling has become the need of the hour, among one of the basic necessities of life apart from roti, kapda, makaan. Counselling is required for better adaptation of an individual.

Counselling comprises professional experts giving personal help to the distressed mind. More often people get wary of a counsellor, as psychologist habitually equated to someone to cures madness. People fear being called mad or someone taking medical help for mental illness. However, counselling is not about all that. It is in fact to help an individual concentrate on his/her well being.

Counselling is designed to assist a person in accomplishing the purpose of achieving a stable mind that helps induce rational thought process. It does not answer the dilemma of an individual, but facilitates the individual to resolve the problem on his/her own.

It is myth that counselling is about treating mad people or imbalanced minds. On the contrary, counselling focuses on guiding the person by understanding his psyche than focussing on the problem and treating it.

This distinct profession has its interdisciplinary base, interlinked with other fields such as sociology, history, anthropology, psychometric, psychology, ethics, and hence it is a wonderful culmination of theories (& practices) that promote the growth of an individual by self- direction.

Guidance counsellor, an expert who practices counselling, supports an individual by systematic professional process through education and interpretive procedure. This is meant to enable the individual to gain better understanding of his own characteristics and potentialities. Further, in accordance with social & moral values, this helps him to relate himself more satisfactorily to social requirement and opportunities.

With increasing pressures to achieve higher things in life, people have forgotten the basic value of enjoying life. Rather than detaching oneself from the material pleasures, people are today coming loose from nature and simple pleasures in life. It is here that counselling helps you create a balance. It does not set a vision for you, it does not give you direction in life but certainly helps you improve your patience levels and shred the ignorance that has innately leached inside you.

- Pragyan Jha
(Pragyan Jha is a qualified psychologist & practicing counsellor in Pune)

As not vitiated by a speck of ‘herdship mentality' that Mumbaikars borne, I took a robust Bolero and marched towards the western ghat segment in Satara district. No. Not to Mahabaleshwar or Panchgani that have amused Mumbaikars for long or assumed Mumbai suburban look; they are no less crowded than Borivli or Dadar.

We took the other way.

One IT professional, a young lad, took the route which was as inspiring as the weekly program that featured hills and forts by Milind Gunaji, the debonair actor, model and basically a trekker. The route required masculine leg muscles, in the least.
Otherwise eschewed due to its rough terrain, Satara is a vast place and can’t be confined to a small article like this, anytime.

Remember Maratha King Shivaji, with his few hundreds of untrained but courageous supporters, strategically deploying his troops at different forts and locations, impossible to reach by climbing on foot, forget horses, had non-plussed ever boasting Moghul invaders, with the strength of soldiers eual to lakhs.

The main city, more a town, is clean and modest, yet to assume the abnormal shape Pune has acquired and Kolhapur is acquiring.


Sajjangad (Fort of Good People) hardly 10 kilometers away from Satara is situated on mountain range where Sant Ramdas Swami, one of the strategic political advisors of King Shivaji, spent his last few years resting in peace.

You cannot understand how and why can such a Sant or a brave king keep these regions spell bound with their magic and aura, centuries after centuries, unless you visit the place. I always wondered in my school days, why the poor, lackluster, half hungry, those bereft of everything in their life might be visiting such pious and/or historical places. The answer is the spell that gives them cause to survive and fight, perhaps. The spell that would last “Yavatchandra Divakarou” (till the Sun and moon exist). Beseeching may be the facade of the inherent strength unknown to them.

The general habit of differentiating between experimental and commercial form of entertainment is too visible here. Sajjangad is defined and narrated as a spiritual place more than a picnic destination and cast away by many, young and old, which is true.

However, remember what you do in a closed door gymnasium to maintain your health is available here in an open, vast and panoramic backdrop with zero pollution that would definitely enhance your annual take of fitness. Add to that the spiritual intake, a bonus that is not added in your CTC by your employer.

Top up all this with Sant Ramdas Swami’s philosophical poetry by in the form of shlokas narrated in his Manache Shlok and DaasBodh. The narratives are so simple and flowing and touching that, if you are under a long drawn impression that philosophy is something beyond general understanding, your impressions are bound to get shattered.

You’d literally fall in love with the simplicity and the rhythm of the poetry. No parallel work of poetry has been written in last 350 years, I vouch. If you are a book handler and in habit of going through pages, if not an avid reader, the open library on Sajjangad where all the literature of Sant Ramdas Swami is available would drive you to buy Marathi and English versions of Manache Shlok and DaasBodh and read them.

Wai is Centre of Marathi Vishwakosh (Encyclopedia).

Tarkatirth Laxmanshastri Joshi and subsequently MePu Rege took enormous efforts to build the knowledge base in Marathi on the line of Britannica Encyclopedia sitting in Wai city on the bank of Krishna River. It’s the epicenter of knowledge and the volumes on different branches of education, history and science in Marathi are constantly written to bring the knowledge in Marathi.

In consonance with time now CDs are made. The administrative staff here was a surprise being courteous and ever willing to give information like the scholars are imparting the worldly knowledge.

The work is immense and beyond just appreciation. But the most admiring thing about the library I found is that the librarian allowed us to enter and handle the books as it is done in most European and Western countries, thoroughly trusting us though outwardly at least I never looked a studious fellow, I repeat outwardly.

Apart from this the bank of Krishna river is getting into actual lime light as it being regarded as the replica of Ganga Ghat and shooting of sensible and yet popular films like Gangajal, Omkara, Mrityudand etc in recent times due to political interference on the Ganga Ghat.

Earlier, “22nd June 1897”, meaningful Marathi movie (1979) winning two National Awards directed by debutant director duo, Nachiket and Jayu Patwardhan (also the screenwriters, with dialogs from specialist Vijay Tendulkar), based on assignation of British Government officer Rand ICS and Lt. Ayerst by Chapekar brothers annoyed by the behaviour at the time of plague in Pune in 1897, was filmed in Wai showing the foresight of the director-duo.

There are many of this kind of extra ordinary historical, geographical, spiritual and adventurous anecdotes in and around Satara.

A place to be visited after reading about it or the place that will compel you to read about after visiting it.

- Divakar Kambli

It was the Christmas time and Santa was bound to be around the corner. It was the time to go wishing for gifts from the white-bearded man. But we have to behave good for that.

Perhaps, the name at the bottom in Santa’s list might be that of Julian Assange, co-founder of the whistle-blower website Wikileaks. A man cursed upon right from the most powerful man on earth, the President of America, protested against by those fighting for privacy rights, branded as a terrorist by Sarah Palin, and still among the most admired men. He is a dark knight, the people’s choice for the Times Person of the Year, the messenger.

Standing for all that is good in the world, and hunted down by half the governments, he is a man we were waiting for, a man who stands up for the underdogs. Built on principles and ethics, an intriguing personality with a great philosophy behind his mottos, this man is courage personified.

A young Julian Assange was a part of a hacker group that had one of its mottos as share information. Perhaps a little inquisitiveness, personal experience and a strong sense of right and wrong has made this man we know today. Being one of the winners of Amnesty award and “one of the most influential person” he is still humble. A brain of unparalleled genius is transforming the now rotten field of journalism.

Greenday, the punk rock band asked the world, “Do you know your enemy?” and we didn’t till then. But today when the very basis of democracy is shattered by the bulk of secrets kept from the public we do realize who the enemy is. It is the regime, the very government that we elect and today Wikileaks has called for a change in this regime. The regime which wants to stay by covering their schemes, the wars they got into, the loss in those wars, is brought to open by these messengers. Julian Assange and his people revolted against the honor to obey, they brought down the silence which had been our enemy for so long. The new era for internet freedom has begun and this massive power of the internet is taming all those power-hungry politicos and bringing to the public all the dirty little secrets. 

This simple man, with very simple and straight philosophy, has showed to us the real face of the world’s most powerful democracy and the notorious secrets of other countries. A self-taught hacking expert and a computer-whiz, he is a revolution in the field of journalism, the press. The fourth pillar of democracy which sways public opinion in any direction, was till now a tool used by the governments to mould facts the way they want. We knew, the facts that we saw were not true, we knew there was also the “Other Side of the Story” but we stood silent. When incidents like 26/11 happened we thought we had enough of this silence. We rose up in violence and brought this government to senses that not always would we accept your facts. And this violence is the energy we seek now to bring reform. Wikileaks gave us channel to let this violence flow, a way to ask the government “what’s the truth?”

News supported with documents and material to prove the truth, is the new face of journalism. The sources are hidden but the documents echo the truth. The methods to acquire the documents are known yet “fool-proof”. And all this is the genius of one simple man. The power will now move in our hands when the foreman of control will be brought down, when his effigy will be burned.

But still one question lingers in the mind. Is it ethical?

Is it ok to steal the secrets of a government? And the answer lies in the fact, if we elect the people up there, we give them our trust votes then they should be entrust us about the annual spending, the wars and the losses suffered, the schemes carried out at international level. If not then the Heroes are waiting to spill the beans. It’s a choice upon the regime up there to decide. Either trust us with every step you take or acknowledge the fact that we do know who our enemy is.

- Aniket Sawant

I decided never to get into a relationship. I have devoutly consorted to this resolution for over a decade now. Every year I just renew this resolution. And with every passing year my confidence in my New Year resolution has deepened. Till date I don’t have a concrete rationale why I should fall in love or have a companion or get into a relationship.

For me getting into a relationship is farce where nothing is true. Even the words “I love you” or “tum mujhe acche lagte ho” are perfunctory. Those words look and sound beautiful only in the start, only to fade away eventually. The words are good to strike off the chord, begin the communication, however, later the communication lines get jammed up, and later things are directly taken for granted without a thought to other person’s intentions. Where does the essence of getting into relationship ooze off?

Most often, relationships make one sacrifice on self respect and dignity. I know many people who had literally begged to a girl to get her nod to accept their proposal. I am still confused about what is there so much to die for. Girls brutally exploited those boys to get free bike rides, watch movies, and eat at the Taj, Marriott. The megalomaniac boys showered their hard money on their stupid girlfriends. Not that I don’t have that kind of money but I find it foolish to spend it in return for holding a hand along the sea shore or getting a kiss in return.

I ask many what makes them so desperate to get into a relationship. Answers range from Mercury to Pluto, with our without logic, sensual to emotional but none to convince me.

I have been observing an imprudent friend of mine lately. He has been smitten by the “I-need-you : you-are-my-life : you-make-me-smile : you-are-the-one” bug. This insanely-in-love friend of mine just doesn’t understand the logic of ‘shut it-fuck it-forget it’. The girl smartly plays “ringa-ringa-roses” of words with him and he stays amused by all that. I wonder what makes him stay so optimistic about the entire episode. He falls to the every excuse she gives him – ‘what’s the hurry’, ‘time will tell’, ‘we still don’t know each other well’, and so on. My silly friend takes all that and sleeps off with sweet dreams in his head and smile on his lips. Idiot!

I don’t understand how time will tell anything. Aren’t we supposed to plan our time, schedule things, and make our plans work in accordance? I understand there is no hurry unless you don’t mind holding shivering hands or kisses with hollow toothless mouth or don’t expect children at the age when only function the reproductive organ can do is micturate. And when does one plan to know each other well enough? Most of the time my friend doesn’t even get to talk to the one whom he admires so much. All calls go unattended, SMS unreplied, there are only specific time windows when calls can be made. It is all so conditional and unrealistic. Well such a case, most certainly the time when you would have actually got to know each other is during the old age. And I thought true relationships are unconditional and beyond any time factor.

I see break offs, divorces, on-time-weddings all around me. There is zero patience in relationships today. There was a time when I read about foreign celebrity divorces in newspapers, see divorces in movies, then saw my own parents going through it, and then seeing it among my friends. My belief in relationships has shattered with each passing day and my belief in not getting into one has strengthened exponentially in the rising ratio. I hate it when relationships are sought desperately turning a blind eye to the fact that you lay at the mercy of other person’s wish and will.

There are people who pity me, laugh at my misanthropic (which I am not, people have assumed it to be so) life. I just smile back with a thought, ‘let’s see whose smile lasts longer’.

- P. K. Dastoor

If we look closely everything that we do or intend to do is a decision. Even deciding not to do anything is a decision. And what I have observed is decisions are governed either by determination (I have to do it assertively) or by desperation (I have to do it, there is no other option). Decision by either way is fine as long as you have scored a goal. However, I have observed (even through my personal experience) that desperate decisions are not fruitful in long term and often tend to bring in frustration. The pay-offs of these decisions are short-lived. While determined decisions reap benefits in a slow manner but are permanent.

Decisions taken with desperation as a premise take longer to achieve your ultimate goals. These decisions look good short term and console you with initial offerings.

At times decisions can be both desperate as well as determined but the order has to be set perfectly. For e.g. Gates, Ambani, Einstein, and many others like them had made determined decisions to make it big, achieve something and then they got desperate about those decisions. People usually reverse the order to fight insecurity and ensure stability and in turn sacrifice on the ultimate motive. I wonder when one would confront a sense of accomplishment going this way, till date I haven’t experienced any.

Determined decisions may not get executed immediately but will reward suitably giving you a sense of achievement that won’t perish easily. A little patience is all that you need and surely we can do that than just having a mediocre lifestyle.

- Anitha Govardhan